As you may know, I decided to go back to school and pursue a second Bachelor’s with the goal of preparing to become an even more kick-a** doctoral student.
Now that it’s been a little over a couple weeks, I thought I’d share with you some of my totally-unscientific-but-still-cool-I-think findings re: this time:
2. Not every guy is married! Wohoo!! Seriously, unlike at the Business School where perhaps eight out of ten guys ARE already either married, engaged, or gay, guys in the Psych program seem to mostly be commitment-free. However, I don’t really have dating on my mind right now, so this one doesn’t count as much.
3. (At the risk of sounding quasi-morbid) I’m SOO happy I broke up with my boyfriend almost a year ago, or else right now I’d be planning a wedding, together with, well, a life, a career, an education, a move (to grad school later on), and again, a life. (He even wanted a “young family” but the last thing I’m visualizing myself as right now is a mommy. : / )
4. I love my job as a writing tutor. I realize I needed to leave when I did to work on my thesis and taking more classes, BUT I’m beyond ecstatic they took me back. More on this soon…
5. I won’t be getting as involved as I was the first time around because I’m more into my academic life, my job, and my research, I’ve also realized. I did the student government thing and hung around the student club scene quite actively while pursuing my first degree, so now I feel more like holding back and letting it be.
6. Socializing is tough when your friends have either graduated already and working elsewhere, or working in other departments at your same school. Thankfully, a good friend of mine who started her Master’s and is teaching Writing for the first time this fall and I have standing lunch dates on some days. These, I gotta tell you, are so refreshing! Nothing like having a venting session accompanied by food in the middle of the day.
But my work peeps look like good potential-friend candidates too. In fact, a gal who I’ve known for a decade (she was one of the first people I met in school when my fam and I arrived to the U.S.) also happens to be a work colleague, and she’s super nice.
And speaking of work colleagues: There is one co-tutor who may or may not be single but who I’ve nevertheless found I’m attracted to. But as you know, I’m not the kind to speak up about these things (partly because we can’t date co-tutors, and partly because I don’t do the chase), so we’ll just wait and see if/how he plays it. Either case, handsome colleague alert.
7. Everyone (or at least 99%) of my Psych classmates ha(s/ve) Grad School on their minds, which is superbly enlightening. At the Business School, everyone was focused on getting a job after college, so they all had this narrow (read: $$$) view of life.
But in the Psych program, everyone knows that more education, be it via academia and/or research, is what can ultimately yield more success and better development, so they hold off on the petty jobs and instead choose grad school. (That might also explain why they’d rather postpone marriage until later on, thereby avoiding the sad, as I see it, “let’s get married to get it over with” phenomenon.)
Along those lines, even Psych professors’ syllabi encourage us to get involved as research assistants in order to get good grad school experience and recommendation letters. Seriously(!).
8. Online classes are actually not bad! This semester marks the first time ever I’m taking an online class (actually two!) at the U. I had to due to scheduling conflicts, you know? Actually I also discovered that the Psych Dept. doesn’t even have that many face-to-face (f2f) classes to begin with, and that those that are f2f end up conflicting at times. (Ergo my need for online classes.)
Now not only is the U’s new “Canvas” system a huge upgrade from its old Blackboard WebCT platform, but it also lets us online students have a similar (though mostly asynchronous) experience relative to our f2f classmates. So if you attend the U, don’t be afraid of online classes because they supposedly don’t have as much of the “control” you’ve grown accustomed to in f2f classes. Actually, online profs know their online students need more flexibility, but they still have expectations and due dates. So you CAN do it; no biggie. : )
9. I may not be the oldEST in my classes and I certainly may not look my age sometimes (thanks Nordstrom Rack saleslady for pointing out that I looked 16 a couple years ago!), but I’m sure I’m def older than most juniors/seniors I take classes with, which is both strangely awesome and awesomely strange. It’s as though I know more and yet I’m still learning with them; or as though I’m more experienced and yet I’m their equal.
10. No group work EVER being required is so. beyond. scrumptious. At the Business School, the mentality is that practically everything must be done in groups to allow for greater collaboration and blah-blah-blah. Perhaps this is also to mimic real-life business situations. (People manage businesses in groups; clearly our students must therefore work in [potentially inefficient
but whatever] groups!) However, most group work simply doesn’t work.
So in Psych, we do stuff by ourselves. Yes, we are social creatures (thanks, Social Psych class), and yes, researchers work in teams, but so far annoying and seemingly useless group activities/assignments are nowhere to be seen in the dept. (Read: none of my four 3000-level classes’ syllabi state anything about any group work.) Which is delightful.
11 AKA Bonus (Because “11 Things…” didn’t sound as exciting as “10 Things,” to be honest): School gives me such an unexpected sense of purpose. Doing mostly school stuff (+ blogging, clearly) for a greater part of most of my days makes me feel like I’m alive. I don’t know what it is: I even asked my mom and she mentioned that that’s where my calling for grad school comes from. I’m a highly curious, studious gal who enjoys learning, and who loves the sense of security that her schooling provides her with.
Some people can’t wait to leave school, graduate, and get jobs. But I gotta tell you, I had a job that was rather underutilizing me, so I left and couldn’t wait to come back to school, where I’m challenged and given opportunities to excel daily.
To some, the “out there” is their real world. But to me, this is my real world, my vocation, my home.
Now back to my assignments…